Love is not always full of candy, roses, walking hand-in-hand and staring into each other’s eyes over candlelight dinner. Sometimes, love requires sacrifice and suffering, patience and pain. Few people realize this, which is why so many marriages and relationships fail. When people who love each other begin to experience the hardships of love, they think that the love is gone. But this is simply not true. While love is sometimes filled with happiness and joy, the flip-side of love contains pain and tears. In these times, love becomes a decision more than a feeling. If we persevere through them, we will come out the other side with greater love and better intimacy than ever before.
One Scripture on Love which shows this is Ephesians 4:2.
With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love.
This Scripture shows that there are times in love when we must be humble and gentle. Why? Because we often want to exert ourselves, and lash out at those who hurt us. And who can hurt us more than those we love? But when we are hurt by those we love, this is the time to be humble and gentle.
We must also be longsuffering, or patient. We must endure the pain and hurt of love if our love is going to be strengthened. To withstand the test of time, love requires testing over time. And if there is never any patient suffering over long periods of time, then the love has never really been tested. But if we endure through these times of testing, our love will grow and strenghen as never before.
Finally, we must bear with one another in love. That means to stick together. To serve each other. To love each other no matter what.
So the next time you experience the pain and hardship of love, remember to persevere through it, because that also is how love grows.
Scriptural Books on Love
Here are some helpful books for learning more about what Scripture teaches on the topic of love. Click on a book below to see pricing and reviews.